I'm Kristen. Mom to Luke and Zoey, two-year-olds extraordinaire. Trying to keep a foot in the advertising world (I freelance part-time as a writer/creative director out of San Francisco and Boston). Recently relocated to Albuquerque, NM for my husband's job (I love it). Trying to do the creative stuff I did before babies, but it's hard. Hoping to be an outdoorsy/backpacking/ snowboarding/surfer girl again someday, but fear that may be in the past. Really, just trying to embrace change and find balance--and to be grateful for all the things big and small that are good in my life.

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Pulling In

Very pregnant, close to the babies being delivered, and I am feeling more than anything just kind of wanting to pull away from the world at large, be with my husband and parents, be at home. My attention and focus is so inward right now...it's really interesting...

One of the big things affected is work...I'm still trying to work and I don't know if I have a lot of work or it just feels that way (probably the latter) but it's really hard to get things done and meet deadlines (totally unlike me, I almost never miss deadlines) and to care...I'm still doing good work I think but I don't care the way I usually do, you know? Trying to wind things down as much as possible. 

And blogging...I may still post every weekday like I've been trying to do, but my schedule may become a little more erratic for a little while (and I know this is going to happen anyway after the babies come), so bear with me please and don't worry if I don't post for a day or two...

Those of you who have had children, have you experienced this lack of interest in the outside world? Was it associated with impending birth? (That's the other thing I've been doing...trying to figure out if anything and everything is a sign that the babies are about to come.)

Hope everyone is having a lovely week so far.



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I felt increasingly uninterested in the outside world right up until a few days before Mira arrived (washing baby clothes = way more interesting than legal work), when I had a sudden bout of productivity. I got a ton of necessary work done, and bam, she showed up. I'd heard that women often get a surge of energy before giving birth--maybe it was to make their birthing and mothering space clean and prepared--and it happened to me, but it doesn't happen with everyone, so who knows. How exciting to be at the point of wondering when!

March 7, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterAS

Yes, yes, yes! When I was close to delivering, I just wanted to be at home, with my husband and pets, and sit around and feel my baby moving. I LOVED being pregnant and was not looking forward to not feeling him moving inside me anymore. I even cried about that in the hospital as I waited to be wheeled into the OR for his delivery. When you're pregnant, you're never alone - and I loved that and really cherished that in the final weeks.

March 7, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterCourtney

You know, I have actually been wondering about this. About how I will feel when I get closer to my due date. Your post has convinced me now that I absolutely HAVE to finish this last book in my series before the baby comes in June. And not just before, but almost a good month before, just to be safe! I had a feeling I would be ready to just nest and mentally prepare. Take care of yourself and I can't wait to see pictures of these two perfect little babies when they arrive!!!

March 7, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterSarra

I think it's all part of the "nesting instinct," when things in the outside world don't seem nearly as important as your new reality. Totally normal and important for those little ones about to make their apearance! Your focus NEEDS to be inward for them. And yes, I do think it's a sign of the birth getting close. I predict that you"re going to deliver on March 19th at 37 weeks. Yoweee - only 11 days away!

March 8, 2012 | Unregistered Commentermom

Hi! I found your blog on the Stirrup Queens blogroll. I'm 37 weeks pregnant and I totally understand how you feel. I have been feeling very "inward" lately as well. I'd rather spend the time I have left alone with Hubby, lounging around the house. I don't want to go anywhere; if someone wants to see me then they're going to have to make an effort and come to me, and they're going to have to initiate the meet up because I'm too distracted/tired to make the effort right now.

I feel like work is suffering as well. It doesn't help that my work load was lessened back in January in anticipation of me going on leave. (I still don't understand why they did that when I had 3 months left before my leave would start?) Part of me wants to ask for more work, and then another part of me just doesn't care. I've checked out.

I wish you well in the last few weeks of your pregnacy!

March 8, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterEmma

I think I pulled inward when I was pregnant with my twins. But I didn't with my daughter. In hindsight, I think a lot of it was just lack of energy. I was wiped out physically and emotionally. A few days before they were delivered I did get a burst of energy and a strong desire to DO stuff. In fact, the Sunday before they were born (that Tuesday) I decided that I HAD to hang the Christmas lights on the porch...so I was out there, standing on a chair, 38 weeks pregnant with twins. NUTS. My husband just about had a coronary! So...be on the look out for THAT kind of thing.

I've got one hat done, and the other is already in progress. I'm hoping that I'll have them both done by Monday so I can shoot them out to you. I'm thinking that you will make it to 37-38 weeks, and that they will both be in the 5-6 lb range. Just in case you're taking a poll ;)

March 9, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterchckenpig

I'm already feeling a little of this "pulling inward" at 26 weeks, so I imagine it will only get stronger as I get closer to my due date. I am working for my husband, so it's a very flexible job as far as I go in when I want and leave when I feel like it, but I definitely have stuff I have to get done for him and it's easy to get behind. I will be happy when we hire a legal secretary to take over, so I can totally veg out in the last weeks of pregnancy:) Hope everything is going well for you and the twins and looking forward to getting to meet them!

March 11, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterTurtleMama

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